Gay for the stay

Gay men who enter prison remain gay when they are released. Heterosexual men who experience inmate-to-inmate sexual violence while in prison come home to unsuspecting women and the community with myriad mental and physical issues.

Many of these women will have identified as heterosexual—colloquially, they were, “gay for the stay.” When Kristine Bunch was wrongfully imprisoned for the death of her son (she served a year.

There’s a phrase that is often used in women’s prisons: “Gay for the stay.” When I first heard it, at Taconic Correctional Facility in , I didn’t understand what it meant. This was my first time in prison, and I was a married heterosexual woman with six children.

Lesbian relationships are quite usual in prison. And yes, “gay for the stay” is actually a thing inside the jail. Those who entered straight, end up having a relationship with their female inmates. (Related: 10 Things You Didn’t Know About Life in Women’s Prison) So how do lesbian relationships work inside the prison?.